Parent-Child Conflict & Connection Support in Coquitlam
Does it feel like every interaction with your child ends in a power struggle or a slammed door? Perhaps you feel a growing distance between you and your child, or the "tools" you used to use for discipline simply aren't working anymore. At Strong River Counselling, we believe that parent-child conflict is often a "protest" against a loss of connection.
We help families in Coquitlam and the Tri-Cities move away from reactive parenting and toward a relationship built on mutual respect and deep attachment.
Common Signs of a Strained Connection
Conflict doesn't always look like shouting. It often shows up as a "disconnection" in the nervous system. You might notice:
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Constant Power Struggles: Mundane tasks like getting dressed or doing homework turn into major battles.
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Emotional Withdrawal: Your child stops sharing their world with you or retreats to their room.
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Heightened Reactivity: Both you and your child find yourselves "snapping" or losing your temper more quickly than usual.
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Lack of Joy: You feel like you are "managing" your child rather than enjoying them.
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Walking on Eggshells: You avoid bringing up certain topics because you fear the explosion or the "shut down" that follows.
Why Connection Matters More Than Compliance
In our Tri-Cities practice, we follow the principle: "Connect before you correct."
Attachment and the Nervous System
When a parent-child bond is strained, the child’s "safety alarm" is constantly triggered. This leads to the Big Emotions and Meltdowns that many families struggle with. We help you understand the "why" behind the conflict—whether it's rooted in Neuro-divergence, past trauma, or simply a developmental "mismatch" in communication styles.
Our Approach: Healing the Family Bond
We don't "fix" kids; we support relationships. We use a blend of expressive therapy and clinical coaching to bring your family back together.
Play-Based Connection Tools
For younger children, we use Play Therapy to create moments of shared joy. Play is the fastest way to repair a relationship because it lowers defenses and allows for "mending" without the pressure of a difficult conversation.
Clinical Coaching for Parents
We provide Parenting Support that focuses on co-regulation. We teach you how to be the "Anchor" in your child’s storm, helping you set firm boundaries while maintaining a soft heart.
Meet Your Connection Expert:
Destinee Kreil, MCP, RCC
Destinee Kreil specializes in the "architecture of attachment." She understands that the river of family life isn't always smooth, but with the right support, you can navigate the rapids of conflict and return to a place of peace and connection.
FAQ: Parent-Child Conflict
